通常女儿都会比较亲近爸爸，而儿子就比较亲近妈妈。虽然不懂背后理由，但别人这么说，自己也用了这个角度观察。更有人说，女儿是爸爸前世的老婆；至于这个，不相信前世今生的我自然推翻了这个说法。
不管形容词有多少个，对我来说，爸爸这个词。。。似乎有点陌生。也许因为爸爸之前需要工作，白天都不在家，而显得交际少，不过我当然没有任何责怪意思。陌生不代表我对爸爸不闻不问，看到苍白头发瘦巴巴的爸爸，我也会心疼；爸爸生病了，我也会照顾他；有什么好处，也会想到爸爸；在外的生活，我也会想念爸爸；
只是。。。之间少了交谈，电话的两头只会傻笑，连一句好吗也问不出口。
我。。也想挽着爸爸的手，也想和爸爸有说不完的话，也想和爸爸有共同乐趣，也想我的儿时回忆有多点爸爸的影子。
我。。想，我想对家庭带来改变，让孩子和父母之间可以多一个朋友的关系。
爸爸，我爱你。
Friday, February 24, 2012
Tuesday, February 21, 2012
Saturday, February 18, 2012
思念
一说到思念，许多的形容词都会从脑海中浮现：
思念是一个很玄的东西；
思念是会呼吸的痛；
我却想说：
思念是无助的情感。
解脱不了的思念，
就像无助的情感，
没得发泄，
没得宣泄，
没得解除，
无助的在脑海里打转，
无助的一而再，再而三地刺激泪蕾。
Monday, February 13, 2012
成长
是红蜻蜓出版有限公司在去年发行的书-- 《约定》。
一年没看到华文书的我，一走进书局，
就已经锁定目标，一定要买一本这系列的书。
但是，差不多排满了三个书架，
还真的有点难下手，难于抉择。
看上这本书的原因有两个，
一，它有点厚度，这样才有物价所值的感觉
（因为价钱都一样）:P
二，作者从中摘选了一段话：
“成长就是一个不断摸索的过程，
我们终究会找到
属于自己的定位的。”
何尝不是呢?
有谁规定21岁就可以领到“成长毕业证书”？
有谁规定当了妈妈就不能继续摸索？
又有谁规定人的定位就一定要有名有势？
Thursday, February 9, 2012
感谢有你们
以上所见的必需品，而非必要品（除了圣经），全都出自别人的手。
从闹钟到拿着拍照的ipod touch，从两位数到三位数，从家人到男朋友，从幼稚园到出国读书，
似乎身为老幺真的比较幸福。。。
感谢有你们，心存感恩。
Monday, February 6, 2012
指望
“指望”
怕不怕被拒绝
怕不怕被省略
你怕不怕被沦落在宿命中妥协
当真爱宣告从缺
骄傲的玫瑰正一片一片枯萎
尽管你抱歉 忏悔
真心一旦坠跌 就不能飞
別指望我谅解
別指望我体会
怕不怕被省略
你怕不怕被沦落在宿命中妥协
当真爱宣告从缺
骄傲的玫瑰正一片一片枯萎
尽管你抱歉 忏悔
真心一旦坠跌 就不能飞
別指望我谅解
別指望我体会
爱不是点头就能挽回
快乐或伤悲 沒什么分別
心碎到終点会迎刃而解
別指望我谅解
別指望我体会
爱不是注定要填你的缺
太多的是非 來不及杜绝
更不想依恋這残缺的美
残缺的迂回
最近喜欢上这首歌，有时候能喜欢不一定要歌词与近况相似。喜欢那旋律、语言，用华文的美述说了种种担忧、决定、坚持中又带点后悔、解释中又带点绝望。
其实也没有什么百分百的感情维持学，一个人也有疲惫的时候，也有想躲进个人空间的时候，然而整个社会都互相联系，时不时就会发现某某某原来就是朋友的朋友，亲戚的情人。。。而感叹这世界真小！
当拥有习惯的相处方式，就很难从被动转为主动，有时更会认为大家都习惯了，认定一定会有人先找你聊天，但后来发现也许先前先找你聊天的都可能认为能改变你，也许厌烦了，也许厌倦了，到最后不得在个人空间里打转，誓为要找出答案，是什么变了？
似乎要做错事情，才会指望得到谅解。任性和顽皮中都不会有谅解的影子。就算谅解，就算选择妥协，心里还是会有不甘心的一处。谅解也不代表原谅，也许该说谅解是知道事情的真相，但该怎么处理，还是得问心灵最深处。
Sunday, February 5, 2012
God is speaking to you
It sounds like a pretty foundational point, but I believe there are many who still question whether God really talks to people. Have you ever wondered about this? Do you ask yourself if God would ever speak to you? You will be happy to know that the answer is yes.
Toward the end of His time on earth, Jesus told His disciples, "I have still many things to say to you, but you are not able to bear them or take them upon you or to grasp them now. But when He, the Spirit of Truth (the Truth-giving Spirit) comes, He will guide you into all the Truth (the whole, full Truth)" (John 16:12,13)
When Jesus spoke these words, He was talking to men with whom He had spent the previous three years, yet He still had more to teach them. This is surprising, because I would think that if Jesus was with me personally for three years, day and night, I would have learned everything there is to know.
But Jesus always has more to say because we will always be facing new situations in life that He wants to guide us through. That is why we have been given the Holy Spirit - so that we can hear God speak, even though He may not be physically in front of us.
Through Christ, and the power of the Holy Spirit, God wants to speak to you on a One-to-one basis every day. He wants to lead you step-by-step to the good things He has in store for you.
The Father will give the gift of His Spirit to all who ask for Him (see Luke 11:13). I want to sway again emphatically that each of us can hear from God and be led by the Holy Spirit daily. Are you listening?
Prayer Starter: God, I ask to be guided by the Holy Spirit. I believe that You are speaking to me, and I want to know what You have to say.
Toward the end of His time on earth, Jesus told His disciples, "I have still many things to say to you, but you are not able to bear them or take them upon you or to grasp them now. But when He, the Spirit of Truth (the Truth-giving Spirit) comes, He will guide you into all the Truth (the whole, full Truth)" (John 16:12,13)
When Jesus spoke these words, He was talking to men with whom He had spent the previous three years, yet He still had more to teach them. This is surprising, because I would think that if Jesus was with me personally for three years, day and night, I would have learned everything there is to know.
But Jesus always has more to say because we will always be facing new situations in life that He wants to guide us through. That is why we have been given the Holy Spirit - so that we can hear God speak, even though He may not be physically in front of us.
Through Christ, and the power of the Holy Spirit, God wants to speak to you on a One-to-one basis every day. He wants to lead you step-by-step to the good things He has in store for you.
The Father will give the gift of His Spirit to all who ask for Him (see Luke 11:13). I want to sway again emphatically that each of us can hear from God and be led by the Holy Spirit daily. Are you listening?
Prayer Starter: God, I ask to be guided by the Holy Spirit. I believe that You are speaking to me, and I want to know what You have to say.
**Joyce Meyer
John 16:13
But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come.
Saturday, February 4, 2012
Set aside distractions
The world makes it easy for us to fill our ears with all kinds of things that drown out the voice of God and push Him far, far into the background of our lives. These distractions come in various forms, from the television to the radio, from food to hobbies. Even our family and church activities can sometimes distract us or pull us away from the Lord.
However, the day comes for every person when only God remains. Everything else in life eventually passes away; and when it does, God will still be there.
The Word of God teaches that what is known about God is evident to all because He has made Himself known in the inner consciousness of mankind (see Romans 1:19-21). Each person will one day stand before Him and give an account of his or her life (see Romans 14:12).
When people do not want to serve God with their lives, when they want to go their own way, they find ways to hide from and ignore this instinctive inner knowledge of their Creator who wants to talk to them and guide them in the way they should go. But nothing can satisfy our inner longing for God, except communion and fellowship with Him. Isaiah expresses well our own hunger for God when he wrote, "My soul yearns for you [O Lord] in the night, yes, my spirit within me seeks you earnestly" (Isaiah 26:9).
Hearing from God is vital to enjoying His eternal plan for our lives. Listening to God is our decision; no one else can make it for us. God would not force us to choose His will, but He will do everything He can to encourage us to say yes to His ways.
So what is distracting you from listening to Him? An unhealthy relationship? A job? A bad habit? God is speaking to you and He desires fellowship with you. Put aside those distractions and join Him.
Prayer starter: God, like Isaiah, my soul longs for You. I know that I need to listen to Your voice more than anything else. I know that as I set aside distractions, You will be faithful to meet with me.
However, the day comes for every person when only God remains. Everything else in life eventually passes away; and when it does, God will still be there.
The Word of God teaches that what is known about God is evident to all because He has made Himself known in the inner consciousness of mankind (see Romans 1:19-21). Each person will one day stand before Him and give an account of his or her life (see Romans 14:12).
When people do not want to serve God with their lives, when they want to go their own way, they find ways to hide from and ignore this instinctive inner knowledge of their Creator who wants to talk to them and guide them in the way they should go. But nothing can satisfy our inner longing for God, except communion and fellowship with Him. Isaiah expresses well our own hunger for God when he wrote, "My soul yearns for you [O Lord] in the night, yes, my spirit within me seeks you earnestly" (Isaiah 26:9).
Hearing from God is vital to enjoying His eternal plan for our lives. Listening to God is our decision; no one else can make it for us. God would not force us to choose His will, but He will do everything He can to encourage us to say yes to His ways.
So what is distracting you from listening to Him? An unhealthy relationship? A job? A bad habit? God is speaking to you and He desires fellowship with you. Put aside those distractions and join Him.
Prayer starter: God, like Isaiah, my soul longs for You. I know that I need to listen to Your voice more than anything else. I know that as I set aside distractions, You will be faithful to meet with me.
**Joyce Meyer
Isaiah 26:9
My soul yearns for you in the night; in the morning my spirit longs for you. When your judgments come upon the earth, the people of the world learn righteousness.
Friday, February 3, 2012
7 ways to practise peace
Living in God's peace is vital to enjoy life. I believe that one of the keys to live with peace in your live is taking small steps toward peace every day. Here are a few tips you can use to develop a more peaceful lifestyle.
1) Be selective with how you spend your time. You may be trying to do too many things and end up doing none of them well. Hurrying is the flesh trying to do more than the Holy Spirit is leading you to do. Be led by the Spirit.
2) Be prepared to say "no" nicely. Sometimes we take on things we should not because we are uncomfortable saying no. Ask God to give you the words to say no when you need to.
3) Resist the spirit of procrastination. God's Word tells us to exercise self-discipline. Do what you know you need to do now so you can fully enjoy your times of rest.
4) Eliminate key distractions. If you know you are prone to certain distractions, such as watching TV, set some guidelines for yourself.
5) Set appropriate boundaries for interruptions. Life is full of interruptions, but you can learn to set boundaries that help you manage them in healthy ways, such as scheduling times when you are "off limits." Schedule time to give yourself a break.
6) Modify your life. Ask God to show you out-of-the-box ways to save time and trouble. For instance, when I do not have time to do the dishes, I use paper plates!
7) Pray and listen. If you can see that your plan is not producing peace, go back to God, pray for peace in the now, and for the wisdom to make changes that will benefit your life.
The bottom line is to make peace a priority, take practical steps toward it, and let God lead you every day into His perfect peace that passes all understanding.
Prayer starter: God, lead me into Your peace that passes all understanding. Show me the daily steps I can take to walk in Your peace for me.
1) Be selective with how you spend your time. You may be trying to do too many things and end up doing none of them well. Hurrying is the flesh trying to do more than the Holy Spirit is leading you to do. Be led by the Spirit.
2) Be prepared to say "no" nicely. Sometimes we take on things we should not because we are uncomfortable saying no. Ask God to give you the words to say no when you need to.
3) Resist the spirit of procrastination. God's Word tells us to exercise self-discipline. Do what you know you need to do now so you can fully enjoy your times of rest.
4) Eliminate key distractions. If you know you are prone to certain distractions, such as watching TV, set some guidelines for yourself.
5) Set appropriate boundaries for interruptions. Life is full of interruptions, but you can learn to set boundaries that help you manage them in healthy ways, such as scheduling times when you are "off limits." Schedule time to give yourself a break.
6) Modify your life. Ask God to show you out-of-the-box ways to save time and trouble. For instance, when I do not have time to do the dishes, I use paper plates!
7) Pray and listen. If you can see that your plan is not producing peace, go back to God, pray for peace in the now, and for the wisdom to make changes that will benefit your life.
The bottom line is to make peace a priority, take practical steps toward it, and let God lead you every day into His perfect peace that passes all understanding.
Prayer starter: God, lead me into Your peace that passes all understanding. Show me the daily steps I can take to walk in Your peace for me.
**Joyce Meyer
Philippians 4:7
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Thursday, February 2, 2012
Experiencing God's peace by living in the now
Having an attitude of peace and calm is priceless. It is an attitude that says, 'I am trusting God,' and it speaks powerfully to people. But it takes time, focus, and the grace of God to be consistently peaceful.
Too often our stress level is tied up in our circumstances. You could be stressed because you are always busy or you are struggling financially or because you are not getting along with someone you love.
To conquer the stress in our lives, we need to learn to practice the peace that has been provided for us by the overcoming power of Jesus.
One way to develop consistent peace is to learn to live 'in the now.' We can spend a lot of time thinking about the past or wondering what the future holds, but we cannot accomplish anything unless our mind is focused on today.
The Bible tells us that God gives us grace for each day that we live. I believe God's grace is the power that enables and energizes us to do what we need to do - and He gives it generously, as we need it.
Every day we need to say, 'God has given me today. I will rejoice and be glad in it.'
If you can learn to trust God 'in the now,' receiving His grace as you need it, you can become a truly peaceful person - and that is powerful.
Prayer starter: God, I know that You have overcome any and every obstacle, so I ask You to help me live in the peace that You have provided for me. Show me how to trust You as I live 'in the now.'
Too often our stress level is tied up in our circumstances. You could be stressed because you are always busy or you are struggling financially or because you are not getting along with someone you love.
To conquer the stress in our lives, we need to learn to practice the peace that has been provided for us by the overcoming power of Jesus.
One way to develop consistent peace is to learn to live 'in the now.' We can spend a lot of time thinking about the past or wondering what the future holds, but we cannot accomplish anything unless our mind is focused on today.
The Bible tells us that God gives us grace for each day that we live. I believe God's grace is the power that enables and energizes us to do what we need to do - and He gives it generously, as we need it.
Every day we need to say, 'God has given me today. I will rejoice and be glad in it.'
If you can learn to trust God 'in the now,' receiving His grace as you need it, you can become a truly peaceful person - and that is powerful.
Prayer starter: God, I know that You have overcome any and every obstacle, so I ask You to help me live in the peace that You have provided for me. Show me how to trust You as I live 'in the now.'
**Joyce Meyer
John 16:33
I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Share the gospel by meeting practical needs
I once heard a story about an evangelist in Russia, who was walking around telling people, "Jesus loves you. Jesus loves you." He was handling out Gospel tracts, and one lady said, "You know what? Your sermon and Gospel tract is not going to fill my belly." See, sometimes we need to show people God's love by meeting their physical needs and then we can share the Gospel of Christ.
Jesus spoke about the importance of meeting people's physical needs. In Matthew, He said that when we feed the hungry, or give water to the thirsty, or clothe the needy, or care for the sick, it is like we are doing those things for Him. He showed us how helping someone in a practical way can create a wonderful opportunity to share Gospel with someone.
When someone can see God's love in action in a real way in their own life, it is much easier for them to believe our message that God loves them.
So what does this look like practically? It could start with something small, like giving a hug to someone nearby who feels unloved. From there, you could go on to support ministries that help the sick, thirsty and hungry. Maybe you could volunteer at a soup kitchen or outreach in your community or take a mission trip to serve the needy in another country. The possibilities are endless when you make a decision to serve others not only through words, but also through practical action.
Prayer starter: Lord, I want to put action behind my words. Show me how I can practically help the people You bring across my path so they can experience the power of Your love.
Jesus spoke about the importance of meeting people's physical needs. In Matthew, He said that when we feed the hungry, or give water to the thirsty, or clothe the needy, or care for the sick, it is like we are doing those things for Him. He showed us how helping someone in a practical way can create a wonderful opportunity to share Gospel with someone.
When someone can see God's love in action in a real way in their own life, it is much easier for them to believe our message that God loves them.
So what does this look like practically? It could start with something small, like giving a hug to someone nearby who feels unloved. From there, you could go on to support ministries that help the sick, thirsty and hungry. Maybe you could volunteer at a soup kitchen or outreach in your community or take a mission trip to serve the needy in another country. The possibilities are endless when you make a decision to serve others not only through words, but also through practical action.
Prayer starter: Lord, I want to put action behind my words. Show me how I can practically help the people You bring across my path so they can experience the power of Your love.
**Joyce Meyer
Matthew 25:40
The King will reply, 'Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.'
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